Throughout June, Cooper Sons Hartley & Williams, Buxton will be providing a Will writing service in return for their fee being donated to Blythe House Hospicecare.

Ann’s grandson, Oliver, was just five-years-old when he was diagnosed with a rare form of leukaemia. Following 10 months of intensive chemotherapy, a bone marrow transplant, treatment for a collapsed lung and total body radiotherapy, Oliver sadly died leaving behind his two-year-old little brother, Finley.

Ann says: ‘Finley struggled, especially in groups of children, and that’s where Blythe House Hospice came in. When Fin started school, he had counselling through Blythe House; it was absolutely amazing. He has very fond memories of Blythe, because it helped him.’

Finley and Oliver

Ann continues: ‘I was then diagnosed with a rare form of lymphoma, its incurable, but it’s treatable. I didn’t feel the sheer utter terror I felt when Oliver was diagnosed, with me it was just let’s get on, let’s deal with this. If a little five-year-old boy can go through it, you bet his 62 year old grandma can!

Debbie, a very good friend of Ann’s, inspired her to get support from the Living Well Service at Blythe House: ‘She encouraged me for a good few weeks, and said “Ann you need to go to Blythe!” I wasn’t depressed… yeah, I might be frightened sometimes but I don’t suffer with low spirit, but it’s the best thing she could have done for me, I will always thank her for it. Straight away, calmness came into my life, and it does what it says on the tin, it’s a living well service, you couldn’t have a better phrase. At Blythe I have learnt coping strategies, how to deal with the lows and then how to raise up with the highs.’

The main things Ann gets out of coming to Blythe House are friendship, a lot of support and the ability to talk honestly in the group: ‘You can see everyone at Blythe working as individuals and also as a team. Everybody is so lovely, and I am hooked on reiki, it’s the best medicine. Carol, the practitioner is very special. She definitely has healing hands. Frieda, my key worker, has gone over and above for me since I started coming to Blythe House.

Ann says:

Having an up-to-date will is the only way you can protect your family and loved ones. By making a donation to Blythe House in lieu of legal fees you will have the rewarding knowledge that you are supporting and helping to protect, for the future, such an important and invaluable local charity. You will make a real difference to individuals and families like mine who can benefit from the wonderful compassionate care offered by the amazing team at Blythe House.

To book an appointment to make your Will, call Cooper Sons Hartley & Williams on 01298 77511 quoting Blythe House Hospicecare.

See the Wills Month poster for all the details – click here.

Meet the team – Ruth Brown, Hospice at Home Manager

Since the Hospice at Home service’s inception in 2016, we have supported more than 300 people to die at home with their families and friends by their side. Our professional and compassionate healthcare assistants have delivered over 30,000 hours of day and night care.

Ruth Brown, Hospice at Home Manager, explains more about its initial set-up and how important the service is, in our rural community where home-based end of life care is so very much needed.

I have held the position of Hospice at Home Manager for over three years. My previous nursing background was firstly as a community healthcare assistant, then as a qualified nurse, district nurse and finally Community Matron, all with the NHS and predominantly within the community setting.

It was important to me to conclude my career using as many of my skills and attributes as possible, with my passion for good end-of-life care. My niece saw the advert for my current post and rang me to say that she had found me my perfect job, she knows me so well. I was overjoyed when successful; I believe Janet’s (Dunphy, CEO) ears are still ringing from my screams when offered the job!

A Hospice at Home service had been a dream for Blythe House Hospice following the legacy left by Stan Blythe 30 years ago. Reverend Betty Packham, the founder of the hospice, saw the beds in people’s homes as a solution to delivering quality end-of-life care in our community. We have brought dying back into people’s homes and into the community where it belongs, and for many patients where there is an expected death, a reduced likelihood of being hospitalised and their death medicalised. We enable many patients to come home from hospital or other inpatient units, to die at home if that is their choice.

In my previous roles, end-of-life care was my specialism; I worked with motivated professionals where values were shared and together we provided outstanding care. I believed that I could re-create a similar culture and philosophy here at Blythe House Hospicecare, and Janet shared my enthusiasm and passion for good end-of-life care. We made an instant connection in parallel-thinking and goal setting, a great deal of ground work had been done before I began; it was down to me to develop a team, build a service with high standards of care delivery and to promote our service in as many settings as possible, to imbed timely referral to our new service from GP practices, district nursing teams, hospitals and hospices.

If I am honest, I wasn’t sure how quickly we might grow and those first couple of weeks we held our breath but referrals came in, slowly at first but then more rapidly. We have now accepted 410 referral s and have recorded 303 deaths with 92% achieving death in their preferred place. We currently have 30 patients receiving care.

I must pay tribute to my colleagues Sam Hanley [Hospice at Home Co-ordinator] and Kathy Ashby [Hospice at Home Assistant], and the wonderful team of healthcare assistants who deliver this high quality service. They are respected and supported; in recent conversations they repeatedly talk of their love for the service and their privileged position. They appreciate the training and supervision we deliver to ensure we are a specialist service with gold standard outcomes.

We continually evaluate the service and receive wonderful comments from our patient’s families and friends.

It has been an amazing three years and the success of the service could only have been a dream in the beginning. I am very proud of what we have achieved together and can’t wait for the next stage of the journey in the hope of reaching every patient in the last year of life across the High Peak, and beyond that, to share and imbed our model of care across the county of Derbyshire.

Our huge thanks go to Spa Town Ladies Darts ‘n’ Doms team, and the Spa Town Rock ‘n’ Rollers group after they’ve collectively raised £1,000 for Blythe House Hospicecare.

Blythe House trustee, Mike Hardman met with both groups to receive respective cheques of £700 from the Darts ‘n’ Doms ladies, and £300 from the Rock ‘n’ Rollers.

Mike Hardman with Alan Wildgoose, Alan Mycock and Trevor Lowton

The Rock ‘n’ Rollers held a raffle to raise the money, at a farewell part for Trevor Lowton who after 15 years of running the group has decided to hang up his ‘Blue Suede Shoes ‘ and retire.

Rock ‘n’ Roll nights are held on first Friday of the month at Buxton Working Men’s Club where live groups or solo artists sing and play music from the 1950s and 60s. Everyone is welcome; non-member admission is £2, payable on the door.

To find out more about Blythe House Hospicecare services, volunteering or fundraising contact us via:
Phone: 01298 815388.
E-mail: info@blythehouse.co.uk

Our comprehensive training programme is giving High Peak residents skills and knowledge to support local patients in the comfort of their own homes.

We are continuing to recruit community volunteers, to offer practical and emotional support and companionship, including providing breaks for family members or carers, and helping with simple household tasks.

The next volunteer training programme is set to begin on Thursday 2nd May, facilitated by experienced Blythe House clinicians and counsellors, covering topics including volunteering in the home setting, confidentiality, safeguarding adults and children, loss awareness, bereavement, boundaries and self-care.

Victoria Wild, Community Volunteer project manager, says: ‘The aim is for our volunteers to bring their own skills, experience and talents to the role, as well as their willingness to help and support our patients and carers in their own homes. We provide training to educate the team on the services that we offer to our community, and at the same time build their confidence and assure them that they go into the home supported fully by the Blythe House team.’

There are currently 15 volunteers who are trained to support patients residing at home, along with their carers and families. Andrew Foreshew-Cain completed the community volunteer training in March and said: ‘I heard a lot of positive things about Blythe House and its work in the local community, and when I met people there, I found a place with a generosity of spirit and heart that was attractive, and which I wanted to be a part of.

‘The training gives a fascinating insight into the work that Blythe House does with people suffering with life-limiting illnesses, as well as their family and friends. The programme is both comprehensive and enjoyable, covering different aspects of working alongside the hospice’s clinical teams, and in the homes of families at some of the most challenging moments of anyone’s lives.’

Margaret Charlton added: ‘I have always liked to do something useful in the community in my spare time and when I moved to the Peak District seven years ago, everyone suggested I go and volunteer some time at Blythe House. From the moment I stepped inside, I knew how welcoming and friendly it was, and how immensely satisfying volunteering here would be. I just wanted to do my bit to help in whatever small way I could, and with volunteering, you always get back more than you give.

‘The community volunteer programme is an opportunity to spread Blythe House’s caring ethos out into our local community; the training has been so mind-opening and confidence inspiring, we have all learnt so much that we can apply in our everyday lives, as well as supporting local patients and families.’

Find out more about becoming a Blythe House community volunteer by:

Quickstep into an exciting new challenge by learning to dance with local professional dancers, Derek and Julia.

The 10 week course is set to take place at Dove Holes Community Centre every Monday from 7-8pm, starting 15th April.

To find out more or to book, call: 01298 814996 or email: julia50hall@hotmail.com

 

Mike’s Sunflower Memories Story

‘I am proud to plant a sunflower in Blythe House Hospicecare’s garden to celebrate the memory of my dear wife, Pat. I also wanted to donate towards the wonderful services that supported me in some of my darkest days following Pat’s death, and that continue to support me. ’

Mike Harrison founded the High Peak Prostate Cancer Support Group in 2010 after being diagnosed with prostate cancer three years earlier. The group meets monthly at Blythe House, chaired jointly by Mike in partnership with members of our dedicated staff team.

As well as being heavily involved in the group for many years now, the Chapel-en-le-Frith resident has also benefitted from other Blythe House services including counselling, the carers support group and complimentary therapies.

Mike was the main carer for his wife Pat for five years before she died in March 2018, and he was able to seek solitude and support at Blythe House.

He explains: ‘When I was diagnosed with prostate cancer in 2007 I felt very isolated and alone. I didn’t know about the disease or about treatments, and I found it very difficult to get information and advice. I decided that I would like to do something locally to provide information and support to people so they wouldn’t feel as lonely as I did.

‘The High Peak Prostate Cancer Support Group meets monthly and is free to come along to. On average around 20 people attend each sessions, including prostate cancer patients, their wives, girlfriends, partners and carers. Everyone is welcome to come along, for advice, support and friendship.

‘As well as prostate cancer group, I have also benefited hugely from coming along to the hospice’s carers support group. Coming to Blythe House to be able to have the opportunity to relax, unwind, give and receive support from local people in similar situations to myself was so worthwhile and made me feel so much less isolated. I felt better for coming to the group.

‘Following Pat’s death, and after all of the important tasks were complete like registering her death and organising the funeral, I honestly did wake up one morning and wonder what on earth I was going to do with myself, and what my purpose in life was anymore. Grief has been so very painful, I’ve been in some very dark places but Blythe House has been absolutely immense.

‘I’ve been having counselling sessions and they have given me my quality of life back. I have been able to speak the unspoken, and get stuff off my chest. The sessions have really helped me to rediscover what my life is and how to enjoy it again.’

Mike and Pat share four sons, who now live both locally and internationally with their respective families – he’s a proud grandparent to 12 grandchildren and 4 great grandchildren!

He said: ‘I have a son who lives in New Zealand and so I thought “I am going to go and see my family! If they’ll have me of course!” So I enjoyed some quality time with him, as well as my granddaughter who lives in Japan on my way home. It was fantastic!

‘My story epitomises what Blythe House can offer to everyone – I am living proof for both patients and carers; Blythe House has been family to me, and has saved my life.’

Make a donation today to celebrate the life of someone you love whilst supporting Blythe House Hospicecare. Your personalised sunflower plaque will be planted in our garden for the month of May.

You can donate by calling the fundraising team on 01298 815 388, or via Just Giving on the link below. You can also pick up a form at Blythe House Reception, or any one of our hospice shops:

  • Buxton – 6 Eagle Parade, SK17 6EQ
  • Chapel-en-le-Frith, 12 High Street, SK23 0HD
  • New Mills – 3 Union Road, SK22 3EL
  • Whaley Bridge – 17-19 Market Street, SK23 7AA

Alternatively, download your own copy of the form at home, print, fill in and return to us via the address given: Sunflower Memories Appeal form PDF

 

Our Easter knitting is now for sale across the High Peak – in our Buxton, New Mills, Whaley Bridge and Chapel shops, and at Blythe House’s reception – priced at £1.50 per item.

We’ve had hundreds of chicks, bunnies, baskets and other amazing knitted and crocheted items donated, as well as delicious Easter chocolates and eggs by kind-hearted local residents and businesses.

Vicki attends our Living Well Service after being diagnosed with breast cancer last year. The Disley resident has crocheted some Easter items and says: ‘Going through chemotherapy, you just have to get on with it; there’s no other choice, you’re so busy with appointments and treatments. But once all that was over, I felt very abandoned and alone, I also struggled with the emotional side of my illness. At first I was very nervous about coming to Blythe House, but I didn’t need to be. Everyone has really looked after me, it has been amazing!

‘I wanted to do my bit to support Blythe House; every little thing anyone can do to help really does make a big difference which is why I helped to crochet some Easter bunnies. I’m proud to have taken part in the Jingle Bell Jog in December 2018 alongside fellow patients and a family friend. I’ve never done anything like it before and we walked most of the way, but we ran the last little bit! It was really amazing.’

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Residents across the High Peak, Hope Valley and beyond are being warmly invited to get involved in a video project to commemorate 30 years of Blythe House Hospicecare.

Rev. Betty Packham

We’re celebrating three decades of hospice care for patients in the High Peak, Hope Valley, and areas of Cheshire and Staffordshire. Reverend Betty Packham founded Blythe House after she took care of Buxton teacher Stan Blythe in the final months of his life, in the comfort of her home. Stan left Betty £1,000 in his will, and Blythe House began as a result of that legacy.

Stan Blythe

Local videographer, David King is volunteering his time to put together a special video to showcase the history and services of Blythe House.

Now, we are on the lookout for local patients, family members, carers and volunteers to share their Blythe House story on camera, to help create the recorded memento.

Janet Dunphy, Blythe House Hospicecare CEO, says: ‘We would love to hear from people across the local area and beyond who’ve been touched by Blythe House care and support over the last 30 years. We know that the hospice has been able to look after thousands of people, and hundreds more have dedicated years of their lives to volunteer for Blythe House. If you have a special anecdotal tale to tell, please get in touch. If you’d prefer not to be filmed, but would be happy for your voice to be heard, we can do audio recordings.

‘We’re also looking for people to share special messages by recording on their own smart phones and emailing directly to us. Please help to celebrate 30 years of care by wishing “happy birthday,” or saying a special thanks for hospice services.’

To find out more about getting involved in the video filming, or to submit your Happy Birthday or Thank You self-recorded videos, please email: communications@blythehouse.co.uk or call Rebecca Cassidy on 07494 594653.

Rachel with her mum and siblings

A primary school teacher from Buxton is set to take on her biggest challenge yet as she faces the Greater Manchester Marathon in memory of her mum who died aged 47.

Rachel Taylor was just 19 years old when her mum, Madeleine Sinclair died in March 1994, five years after her pancreatic cancer diagnosis.

During those precious years, Madeleine could not find enough local support for people with cancer and so she set up her own charity, Cancer Self Help (CaSH).

Rachel, now 44, explains: ‘Mum was such a go-getter and wanted to make things happen. She got involved in the initial stages of Blythe House’s creation, alongside founder Reverend Betty Packham. My dad recalls that the original meeting place was in an old people’s home or similar in Chapel-en-le-Frith. A committee was formed there and my mum told members what support she, as a cancer sufferer, needed.’

Rachel has been married to Steve for almost two decades and followed in her mum’s footsteps by becoming a primary school teacher. The mum of two has supported Blythe House by taking part in running events and raising sponsorship for many years – including 10kms and half marathons. The Greater Manchester Marathon on Sunday 7th April, will be her longest race ever.

She says: ‘This marathon is by far my biggest challenge. A couple of friends and I didn’t get into the London Marathon this year so, after a conversation over a few pints we decided to sign up for the Manchester race. Only then did I realise how far 26 miles is! With the company of my running friends, I have been increasing my weekly mileage and pace. To date, my longest runs have been 20 miles along the Monsal Trail and 22 miles from Whaley Bridge to Manchester Piccadilly along the canals.

‘I have run on and off for many years now but the friendships I have made and the ongoing support we have for each other with the group I run with has been amazing. Sometimes we run around town, sometimes the trails, sometimes off road, up hills and down, and sometimes very muddy dales. The reward of a cake or a pint at the end is always tempting but the banter we have is great.’

If you are taking part in the Greater Manchester Marathon or any other race and would like to run for Blythe House, we’d love to hear from you. Please email us so that we can help support your fundraising efforts: events@blythehouse.co.uk.

Our thanks go to Buxton Community School students who have raised an amazing £769.50 for Blythe House Hospicecare services as part of their annual Personal, Social and Health Education Day.

Year 7 students took part in a sponsored aerobathon in January, undertaking a whole hour of dancing and exercising to raise vital funds.

The money raised could provide five Hospice at Home nighttime ‘sits’ to a High Peak patient who is at the end of their life, so that they can stay in their own home. Find out more about our Hospice at Home services.

Photo (L-R): Brandon Gould (Y7 Student), Becka White (Blythe House’s Fundraising and Communications Assistant) and Jessica France (Y7 Student)