‘If you’re going to make a will, why not do it when the solicitor is willing to donate the fees to such a worthy cause such as Blythe House Hospicecare?’
Ali and Scott Beswick decided to make their will with Cooper Sons Hartley & Williams during Blythe House’s Wills Month in 2019.
The Buxton couple have supported the hospice with various events and fundraisers after Ali’s mum, Julie received care at Blythe House following her breast cancer diagnosis in 2018.
Here, Ali and Scott explain more about the support Julie received, the importance of writing a will, and why they chose to do so during Wills Month…
‘We knew of Blythe House before mum’s diagnosis, and were aware of some of the services the hospice offers, like counselling and respite activities at the hospice and end-of-life care at home, but we didn’t know much more than that. We didn’t realise how varied the support and activities would be or how much was available, or the extent of the support groups.
‘Julie started to access the services at Blythe House in 2018 following her breast cancer diagnosis. She received various types of support including one-to-one and group sessions, and was able to access care and advice including speaking with a financial advisor about benefit entitlements; receiving weekly physiotherapy for her feet as they suffered from the effects of chemotherapy; complementary therapy including reiki; counselling; and talking to a beautician about hair care, head scarves and wigs.
‘Julie also took advantage of the craft facilities at the hospice and had a go at some painting, book folding and tapestry as well as joining in on the Writing for Life course which enabled her to put down on paper thoughts and feelings and discuss these in the group. The sessions also enabled Julie to meet other people who have become very good friends; there is nowhere like Blythe House where you can meet and catch up with others in a similar situation. Julie also attended (pre-COVID) the monthly breast friends support group at the hospice- offering a chance to be with other people who have had breast cancer.’
A positive prognosis
‘Julie is doing very well now and has been back at work for just over a year. Her treatment is now down to once every six months and if it were not for the current restrictions due to the COVID-19 pandemic, she would be doing pretty much everything that she was able to do before her diagnosis and treatment began. Her hair has come back too!’
Giving something back to Blythe House
Scott said: ‘Blythe House is a local charity that relies heavily on donations and fundraising to continue providing vital services to patients like my mother-in-law and families like ours. The charity is particularly close to us due to the support that they have provided to Julie and therefore, there was no hesitation to choose to run the London Marathon for the hospice (now sadly postponed until next year!) We have also taken part in the Glow Twilight Walk with our family, which was an amazing occasion.
‘When Wills Month came around, there was no hesitation; we needed to make a will and we wanted to continue our support to Blythe House and give something back ourselves.’
Making a will
Ali explained: ‘We became homeowners in 2016, got married in 2017 and had our little boy, Callum in November 2018. We had talked about making a will a number of times over the last few years but it was one of those things that we never got round to doing. I think we expected it to be a really long-winded process which we kept putting off, but when my mum received her diagnosis and when Callum was born (both in 2018), it really hit home that it was something we needed to have in place, for Callum’s future more than anything.
‘My mum picked us up a leaflet about Wills Month 2019 during one of her sessions at Blythe House, it was another reminder to make a will, and when we saw that the fees were being donated to Blythe House, we felt that if we were going to make a will, it needed to be then; so we did!’
Securing your future – making a will is so important
The couple said: ‘As uncomfortable as it is to talk about, death happens to us all and we will never know when “that day” will happen, so the sooner you make a will, the better. Having a will means that there are legal plans in place to determine what will happen to your assets (home, car, savings, everything else you own) and your family (children, pets etc.) when you are no longer here. We felt a strange sense of security and satisfaction when we made ours; as if we were securing Callum’s future.
‘The meetings with the solicitors and putting the wills together don’t actually take long, you just need to be in agreement of who you would like to act on your will (your executors), what you want to happen to particular items (or other assets) and who will receive them (the beneficiaries). Gather a list of the names and addresses of the beneficiaries and the solicitor will do the rest! Once you’re happy with the draft, you go in to the solicitor’s office for literally five minutes to sign the final document and it’s done!’
Kill two birds with one stone –write a will during Wills Month
‘Excuse the pun – kill two birds with one stone! If you’re going to make a will, why not do it when the solicitor is willing to donate the fees to such a worthy cause such as Blythe House Hospicecare? You never know; you or a family member may need to call upon Blythe House at some point; wouldn’t it be a good feeling to know that you have helped support the hospice to support you or someone you love?’
To book an appointment to make your will in October, call Cooper Sons Hartley & Williams on 01298 77511 quoting Blythe House Hospicecare.